How to Raise Your Teenager (without being
Establish some rules, but also give them
freedom to act
We were all once a teenager, so we should understand what it’s like wrestling with
all those hormones, trying to navigate high school,
dealing with friends and crushes, and wanting to be independent. Yet many parents forget what it was like and
struggle when it comes to raising their teenager. Of course, teenagers are known for being reclusive, unpredictable
and sometimes quite rude and nasty.
However, a teenager will typically revert back to a more watered-down version of
themselves once they reach adulthood – all you have to do is try and handle them during those teenage
Being a teenager is a struggling period for both parents and
While teens are trying to find their own personality, both parents
and teenagers have to find way to grow and live
Struggling with your teenager and unsure on how to raise them? Here are some tips
to help you!
Respect their Boundaries
Teenagers will most likely wish to put new boundaries in place, and while this may
be difficult for you to understand, you need to respect their wishes. For example, your teenager may want more time
on their own and wish for you to knock on their bedroom door before entering.
They may also only wish to communicate with you when it is necessary. The worst
thing that you could do is disrespect these new boundaries, causing them to push you away, act out, or resent you.
However, you will also want to set your own boundaries so that they still have rules to live by.
Take Away Privileges if Needed
While you want to respect your teenager’s boundaries, this does not mean you
should allow them to do whatever they wish. You will still need to have rules in place which coincide with their
freedom, and if they are unable to stick to these rules, you will need to take away their privileges. For instance,
have you allowed them to have a TV and games console in their bedroom? If so, you should remove it for a couple of
days if they break a rule.
Speak to Professionals (if needed)
Your teenager may get into trouble and commit a crime just as vandalism, underage
drinking, shop lifting, etc. If this happens, then you will want to speak to professionals so that you can offer
your teenager the right support. While you will want them to be held accountable, you will also wish for them to
get the best legal advice so that the mistake does not harm their future. The best way to do this is to speak to
professionals such as those at campolidefense.com. They will be able to discuss the next steps and how you and your teenager can deal with the
Do Not Take their Threats as a Challenge
Teenagers can be known for making threats if they feel as if you are being unfair.
They may say that they dislike you,
are planning on running away, or not going to college. All these
things can be a parent’s worst nightmare, but it is important that you do not take their threats as a challenge
as they are more likely to follow through with them in an act of defiance. Allow your teenager to cool off, as
it is more than likely that they have said these things in a fit of rage and upset.
Teenagers can get a bad reputation, and while you may be expecting the worse, you
may also be lucky enough to have a teenager who does not push your buttons or rebel. However, it is essential that
you listen to your teenager and allow them to express themselves on their own accord. Not doing so can cause them
to act out.